The Curse of Comparing Yourself to Others

Mike Coval
January 7, 2021

I think comparing yourself to others CAN be productive, but it has to come from a healthy place.

For example, I've been in business for nearly 10 years now.  Let's say that I was frustrated with the businesses growth and so I start wondering what Jimmy, Danny, and Mary, who are also gym owners and have been doing this nearly as long as I have, are doing from a monthly gross revenue stand point. 

I reach out to them and find out that they're doing 50% more on a monthly basis than I am. 

This can go a few ways here, but I'm going to focus on the most likely two ways it would go.

1)  "How in the hell are they doing that?!?!  I NEED to get that point if I'm ever going to be successful!"

2)  I get curious.  What are they doing better than I am and how can I apply that to what I do so that I can get better?

The former displays an outlook that all I am basing my level of "success" on is the gross revenue generation.  This is a dangerous game.  What happens when/if I get my gross revenue up to what Jimmy, Danny, and Mary are producing only to find out that they've accelerated their businesses to another 20% growth?

I'm probably going to chase that number and if it's not that number then I'll find some other metric to chase in order to validate my self-worth and perception of success.

The latter scenario showcases a mindset of personal growth that is spurred by curiosity, internal motivation, and a genuine desire to get better for not only my own growth, but everyone around me.

I'm not saying don't compare yourself to others, but I do encourage you to challenge the underlying meaning of the need to compare yourself to others. 

If it's unhealthy (i.e. creates anxiety, poor self-image, etc.) then find ways to sort that out otherwise you will carry that burden with you forever in many aspects of your life.

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