I won't lie, growing up, I had the hardest time being genuinely happy for others success. Often times, what would happen when my peers would have success I would shit talk about their success to myself. It was like comfort food for me as I was so miserable and dissatisfied with my own life that it was the only way that my mind could process my lack of success and unhappiness and move forward.
I changed my environment as I got into my early 20's and have grown tremendously since then.
I mean, after all, what I do for a living is help people have success so it wouldn't make sense for me to be in this career if the success that people I help didn't get my adrenaline going and make me happy.
Back then, I wish I had the ability to understand what I was doing and why it was unhealthy for my mental health. It was unhealthy for relationships with others. And how it was unhealthy for my relationship with myself.
The stress that it carried only built over time until I changed my environment which helped change my thought process and how I viewed myself.
If you're struggling to be happy for others that are within your circle and you know that they deserve that success (meaning it wasn't handed to them), then it might time to be do a self-evaluation and try to understand why it is that you feel the way that you do.
We all want to win. In order to best increase our chances of winning, it's in our best interest to bring others along for the ride...even if that means at that moment you might be trailing behind.